Now that I’m on meds, I’ve started to feel numb and somehow disconnected from my emotions. Do I even have emotions anymore, I begin to wonder. Sure sex haven’t been the same for a couple of months.
Before this crisis of mine I used to be very empathic and sensitive of what other people were going through. I co-felt feelings such as grief, which for example came with long-term infertility, and desolation, which few of my stay-at-home mommyfriends were also struggling with. On top of that I had my own emotions to deal with. Now that I think back, I’ve always been there for others. Always listening and comforting… No wonder I’ve been so sentimental and gutted. And no wonder, I took the conflict with F so hard.
If you have any bad feelings you would like to dumb, bring them to me, I’ll carry them for you!
Usch, not anymore. Now I don’t feel the need to think things too deeply. Sure I feel love for my husband and kids and care for my friends but would I like to have something heavier on my shoulders? No thank you, that would be too exhausting. Now don’t get me wrong, this is a good shift in my life, but at the same time I begin to worry. Is this numbness really me? Who am I?
Last Friday M called me. As usual she was concerned with S’s money situation and then told me, that their cat has been acting weird and maybe they should get it to the vet and have it put to sleep. I couldn’t care less (!) but I said: “Ooh, it’s getting old. You should deffinitely go to the vet and depending on what he sais, do what ever you have to do.” I said, what is ment to be said in situation like that, but I didn’t FEEL IT. Or maybe I felt a little bit irritated for the fact that she told me about their cat and waited for me to console her. Same thing happened earlier with S, when she told me, that she’s concerned about the big mole in her back. “What if it’s cancer?” she cried. I felt nothing. Just irritated again which I tried to hide. I said: “Please, don’t worry yet. Go to the doctor first and wait for the lab results.” Again I said, what is ment to be said in situation like that, but I didn’t FEEL IT.
Is this because of my meds or is it just the fact, that because my Sister and Mother haven’t been keen to help me to solve my crisis, I feel like I don’t have to be there for them, either? I’ve read about SSRIs and how they blunt your personality so that you are apple to shape it again. Doctors recommend therapy as a molding tool and it leads to one question: If I don’t ever go to therapy, is this numbness going to be a new me?